There’s much blog-talk about giving thanks and making gratitude lists as we slide into this Thanksgiving holiday, all of which I ardently agree with. But, I thought why gild the lily with yet another post about the importance of adopting an attitude of gratitude? I mean, Hey– what about the importance of “You’re welcome?”
And I say this in the most gracious and tender way. I’m not saying that getting is awesome and thank God for the givers because that means I get to get more. No. What I’m saying is… The receiving is important. The receiving of thanks– the receiving of the gift– is sacred and deserves it’s own space and pause and respect.
Allow me to illustrate.
Have you ever given someone a compliment and had them meet you with a response of “oh, no, I’m not really that good” or “oh, this old thing? it’s just something I dragged out of my closet and plopped on.”
Kinda feels like someone slapped you in the face, doesn’t it?
That’s what happens when the gift is not fully received. That’s what happens when the gift is ogled at, made fun of to its face, and gingerly shat upon while you stand in horror without any hope for humanity.
Not only does the refusal of the gift make the recipient look bad, it also makes the giver feel hard, foolish, disrespected and shut down.
How many of us are complicit in the shatting-upon of a perfectly lovely compliment? ME, for sure! And I would bargain to say many many of y’all as well. Hey, it’s okay! We’ve all done it. And we’re not proud of it. It actually has a lot to do with respecting ourselves and believing we're worthy of the praise. And admittedly, sometimes we just aren’t there.
But for the next time around, shall I propose a new thought? That when someone pays us a compliment, we meet them with presence and gratitude and we simply say “Thank you.” And when someone comes to us with their heart full and says “Thank you,” we meet them with acceptance and acknowledgement of their gift and simply say “You are so very welcome.”
Believe me, the result of this small act of acceptance will shift your foundations and alter your innards. You'll suddenly find light where you never thought you could. It's what happens when you allow yourself to receive thanks without shame or obligation. I believe that's why they call it Grace.
My dearest readers, please accept my bestest brightest wishes and deepest thanks for this glorious holiday. Thank you for all that you do and all that you are.